Temetwir

18.12.05

Focus

When he first boarded the plane to Heathrow, he thought about his family and friends; his life and its magnificent, lively routine. Always exciting, always on the edge, and a lot to do. He was already missing it. The unexpected thing was he started to have back flashes of her too. He thought that was interesting, to say the least. A bit odd, actually.

Now seated, he looked over to his left, looking down the window from 30,000 feet up.

He rushed to the room number that was given to him, looking at his watch every other second. Fuck fuck fuck, this can't wait another day or until next week. He was skipping work, as usual, but this time it was for a purpose he told himself. Yeah, mm-kay. He feared that the lecturer would be there already and would not allow him in, simply because, well, he wasn't enrolled in that class. Actually, he wasn't enrolled at any classes. Well, actually, he wasn't enrolled at the university altogether anymore.

Through the corridors, his eyes caught the magic number on the 2nd floor. Looking down at his watch, it was 10 to 2. Why the fuck was I in a hurry? Ithghil ya isbay. He never really was in a situation similar to this one, so he excused himself for feeling the thrill.

Leaning and rocking his neck, the back of his head was banging very lightly at the surface of the wall behind him. Making silly noises with his lips, inaudible to anyone but himself he waited, and waited some more. No books in hand, and no one to talk to before class, he looked like an idiot. Everyone near the door was giving him a certain look of, hmm, unrecognition? But he didn't care; his eyes were searching. He just continued bouncing his back on the wall gently, obviously appearing anxious to the trained eye.

He figured might as well go and secure a seat inside before the lecturer comes; walking towards the door, he took a glance inside the room from the square-glass. Only a couple of girls were present, oh why not. He walked in and proceeded to the last row of the classroom. Getting his wallet and keys out of his deshdasha's pocket, and placing them on the desk, his hands flew in the air as they were programmed to do the same with getting out notebooks back when he was in college. He had a silly smirk on his face for remembering all the BS he pulled off at the time. Fuck institutionalized education, I say. Looking up, one of the girls quickly turned away to her friend again. He could just barely make out her whisper 'meno hatha?'

He laid back, as one by one the seats were being filled. Being at the end of the classroom, every single student, boy or girl, walked in, stared at him, and said something to his or her friend. All the friends would shake their heads, leaning in to the whispered question; apparently saying "I don't know". The lecturer walked in. He was getting impatient and looked at his watch. Again. Two minutes past 2, what the fuck? His knees started shaking, I'm sure it's the right room number. The lecturer kept going on about the 4 Ps of marketing, he just sat there hearing without listening with his eyes fixed on the door.

Oh. My. Holy mother of all that is sweeeeet, Batman. Things were moving slower now all around him, entranced. The door opened and he could see her move, as if dancing, actually, turning ever so gracefully to shut the door quietly. Yaboy, reg3y il bab.. kasry il bab.. men bekalmich. She sneaked and made her way through the room. Poetry. In. Fucking. Motion. His eyes fixed on her face. Blinded by her face is more appropriate to tell the truth. Angelic. That's all that was going through his mind. Her face. Angelic.

She proceeded to be seated one row in front of his, approximately eight seats away to his left. Ma khaab thannek, ay dawam ay ba6eekh ya 3ami zain. He was practically staring now. He caught himself doing so, and tried to stare at the board.
Bored, and already missing her face; he started staring again. Some of the details were now sinking in: the perfect 7ejaab, nothing too flashy, no hair sticking out. The perfect, subtle make-up. What make-up? He wasn't an expert so he decided to cross that one out. She probably doesn’t have any make-up on in the first place. The clothes not tight or anything. Just like the way he liked them. Preserved yet spoken.

Looking at his watch again, it was half past 2. He could've sworn it was just 2 past 2 a moment ago. He turned to his right, and left, and then again to his right. Everyone was attentive to the board and the lecturer. Mn sejhom? It was as if only he was there, yet actually he was the only one who wasn't. He couldn't hear anything, he could just hear her silence. He knew he would like what he'd see.. but fuckkkk.. he loved what he saw. Not pretty, but beautiful; nothing sexy, rather definitely all elegance.

He locked her in his eyes, involuntarily he felt his lips pressing against each other; and then released, slowly transforming into a hint of a smile. Girls like her have always made him feel something different. Something good. And if he knew one thing, it was girls. If he knew another thing, it was that girls like her don't just show up, you have to look them up. Just like gold. Period. So focused on her face he was, that he missed her turning to face him. Hello stranger. He did not know which came first: was it his eyes greeting such purity in purity; or was it his lips smiling at such grace with grace?

Fuck the poetic shit.. It didn't really matter, it was one glorious moment that's what matters. Only thing was, she wasn't smiling. Shfeeha hathy? But he lost the attitude instantly, remembering what he was told. Come to think of it, he didn't expect her to smile. Come to think of it again, he should be grateful she even gave him the courtesy of acknowledging his stare. Sure, it was a look of meno hatha shyabe theba7ni khaz. But he didn't care. He just wanted to see her and make her take notice. Nothing more; neither would've settled for anything less though. A simple smile wouldn't have hurt perhaps. But then he thought maybe it would have.

"Headphones, sir?". He felt a touch on his right arm, it sprung him back to life. He looked away from the airplane window, and as he turned his head to face the source of the touch his eyes were still living in the classroom. He smiled, blindly, at the passenger next to him; samewise with the flight attendant offering him a headphone. He thanked the flight attendant, blindly too. He looked straight back at the window. He didn't have enough of thinking about her just yet. Ever since, he had a new found respect for classrooms.

It has been five months now since that flight; six months since he first, and last, saw her. He had this silly smile on his face again, blinded. He was going to see her again.

Once. And not again for another six months.

He didn't mind at all.

56 Comments:

  • WOW!! i'm so dumbstruck. That was a wonderful post. So refreshing! The purity was so wellspoken. your way with words was so capturing!

    By Blogger samboose, at 18.12.05  

  • creepy display pic

    By Blogger Spontaneousnessity, at 18.12.05  

  • Yal 7ibeeb :P

    By Blogger Blogger, at 19.12.05  

  • Zawho ilwalad yajema3a zawjooh!

    girls find him someone ok?

    By Blogger mishari26, at 19.12.05  

  • zawho? err zawjo, :P
    badliyat = changelings

    By Blogger mishari26, at 19.12.05  

  • I like it... but can`t believe, that everything will be ok with the main character... see only the sad end:(

    And also this strange nostalgic feeling, like I miss something...

    Good, Temetwir... very good...

    By Blogger Sever, at 19.12.05  

  • see, now i want to know what happened between the time he saw her & the time he got on that flight.. !!

    thuman about her not smiling, i think that's perfect cuz it reflects the personality that he was looking for.. had she actually smiled, it would've tainted the picture i think.

    i loved the whole description of the way she was dressed: perfect 7ejab, no hair sticking out, clothes not too tight. lil asaf these days girls have the WRONG idea about 7ejab!! So glad u got the right one in this story.

    v nice post. would love to read more. (of course, u realize u've planted the questioning seed of 'he's talking about himself!?! shesalfeh!?' but i won't ask!)

    By Blogger MSB, at 19.12.05  

  • Excellent writing, well paced. If she was gold, how did he find her?

    By Blogger Q8Prodigy, at 19.12.05  

  • :)
    Sweet.
    Nice change.

    By Blogger Delicately Realistic, at 19.12.05  

  • samboose im glad u think so! and welcome back its been a while since i saw u here (i think)

    spontan :)

    sty hehe mo 7ob 3ad, admiration and longing is more like it i guess

    mishari heheh shlon y3ni, yom el khamees enshala tyee takh6ebly ??

    the northern color hi.. the main character is perfectly fine becoz he doesnt want anything really .. so its not really sad .. but yeah the nostalgia does kick in im glad u say so

    and by the way i apologize for the arabic/english font, if theres anything ud like clearing up let me know (im guessing ur from russia, and not necessarily just in russia, becoz i just checked ur profile)

    MSB her not smiling means that she has nooo idea who he is, or why the hell he seemed so happy .. i mean its not everyday u see someone staring and smiling (becoz they know everything abt u) and u have nooo idea who they are ..

    the way she was dressed was what "made him happy" .. as i said to Sty above, its admiration for the preservation which makes her beautiful in his eyes, over the fact that she is already very very attractive

    im not sure if theres anything more to read heheh.. but abt "he's talking abt himself", if u mean me, myself, then yes it IS me :)

    q8prodigy hala wala, and that compliment coming from u, honestly, u have no idea what it means to me..
    the thing about HOW he found her is hinted to (i hope) in the narration .. y3ni its not that he just guessed that he would find someone like her at 2pm in that particular room .. he did, in all sense of the word, dig her up just like gold :)

    dCC eheheh nice change huh? yeah i figured a little subtle, naturalistic situation wouldnt hurt anyone .. plus now all u guys can stop giving me a hard time abt my attitude hehe :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • YOu are on a roll dude!...You realise you're having a new post practically everyday with a large sum of comments..I'd say you're definately on top of blogging world these days!...

    The story was fantabulous and mesmirising...and of course we all know that this was based on sheer observation...i.e. you're the guy sitting next to this guy who's dreaming away....sa7?....;)

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 19.12.05  

  • misscosmo thats what happens when ur bored, yet hyper.. or something

    glad u liked the short story, and u wish it was mere observation ;p

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • chakaynaK!
    aha!
    so mr. i don't believe in love, love is crap, f***k everything..
    u seem to be in love?
    hmmm...
    is it mutual?
    was she with u in uni?

    OMG Ligafa, bs i am a kuwaiti girl at heart hehe and ligafa just runs through my viens..
    shasawee ;P~

    By Blogger Baroque, at 19.12.05  

  • min sidja ma 7awal ikallimha??

    By Blogger A3sab, at 19.12.05  

  • Before any reader of your eloquent blog recovers from a previous enchanting and moving blow, you strike back with yet another more capturing one! Ma sha'Allah 3alaik ya Temetwir, Min wayn kil hathi el-Energy and creative "Geist"? Ma Sha'Allah!

    I love the way you express the main character's admiration for the mu7ajjaba (poetic in motion)-girl and the way he focuses on her face and smile. Excellent!

    And, Northern-Colour: I don't think it's a sad end at all. I find The end reeking of optimism, desire and determination, which in my opinion do not imply any sadness. Or am I wrong Tem?

    By Blogger BitterSweet, at 19.12.05  

  • charisma la7tha la7thaaa, how does that EVER be the same as "love relationship" o 7ebni wa7ebek kharabee6 malha awal wala taly?
    tara u and misscosmo tell me "u dont believe in love" becoz we define it in a verrry diff way, thats all.. so yea i dont "believe in 'love'"

    to answer u: no its not mutual, and no she wasnt with me in any classes in univ (first time i see her + diff colleges + shes younger, at least by el dif3a not age i guess)

    bas im serious charisma how is that the same? its not at all, the way i see it

    -

    om mejrin, would u want to run ur hands over the mona lisa's canvas? :)


    bittersweet teslamli 7abeeb ilsha3b, i just jump on any opportunity to skip school work (bs el7amdelah now i did what i set before i return to q8)

    and yeah honestly i cant remember a guy telling me about a grls face.. theyd get into every detail EXCEPT the face :/ thnx again

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • Temi, great job. Ana agool nroo7 ana oo mishari26 in5a6ibha lik gabil la t6eer. Ana akallim umha oo tara a3arf ate7acha 3adil she'll think Im your mom and mishary will hit the men dewaniya, ha shitgool?

    By Blogger ZinZinQ8, at 19.12.05  

  • zinzin hehe 3a6eeni 1 more yr, b3dain ana as7ebich enty o mishari lain baab baithom

    and thank u am glad u liked, again, coming from u, that counts to lots :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • I guess your answers remain the same...you believe in lust and not love...and if zinzin is planning to ta56iblak does that mean you'd marry for lust??

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 19.12.05  

  • misscosmo lust would be if i "liked what i saw" in terms of physical attraction..
    in this case, its obvious that thats not it.. i already knew everything i wanted to know.. everything.. thats what got me to skip work and go.. how do u think i knew her if that was the 1st time i saw her? :)
    i dont think ur getting it

    but wait let me get this straight.. u and charisma r calling me a hypocrite, is that it? heh

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

    that sums up EVERYTHING :)

    By Blogger Noor, at 19.12.05  

  • Temetwir, thank you, next time will ask about every arabic word, be ready:) just joking...

    Dear author, tell me please, have u ever written stories about people you don`t know? Mmm... I mean for example you see a person & then in your heard you start to imagine something about him & so on, not to make a story, just for fun... & then it becomes a real story.

    Mr.Bittersweet

    I feel it`s sad for me, so I see only the sad end. It reminds me something. Evenly everything is ok in the world of this story, everything is ok with the character, he does not want anything as Temetwir said, but I want a lot... nostalgia... life is sad :) (smiling in strange way)

    You like Mahfouz ;-)

    By Blogger Sever, at 19.12.05  

  • Oh good! Nice to know there's beauty in your life, Temetwir, I was starting to get worried ;)

    Wonderfully written, as always. Only, I wasn't sure about this sentence: "Preserved yet spoken." Do you mean to say "Reserved yet spoken."?
    Was she already spoken for, or does her style show enough confidence that you know she can speak up for herself?

    By Blogger McArabian, at 19.12.05  

  • If she had smiled backed, she woudld've burned the portrait and he would've walked away.

    If he had talked to her and she replied, again, the portrait is burned. If not, it's a plus, but might have damaged his chance, future chance.

    I can't see lust nor love in your post! All I see is a percise capture of true natural beauty: principles.

    Tights = Sluts; Make up = Clowns; Gethla hanging out = Hypocrites;

    She may or may not be availableone year from now, and I know that you're the kind of person who does everything in the right time according to your plans; But I'm telling you this: If I find that girl, consider her gone.

    Btw, it's an insult to compare such qualities to gold. It's priceless.

    * I hope you went to the extent where you asked on how she thinks and replies to certain situations and questions, i.e., define her personality.

    By Blogger MBH, at 19.12.05  

  • noor, what's up with everyone thinking this is "cute" lol .. it's not a bubble-gum-song u know heh

    the northern color (and TNC henceforth, if u do not mind),
    no.. please do ask.. it's just that sometimes when i write it in english it sounds waaay diff than it did in my head, which is a problem i have with this blog ..

    in regards to ur question, nope.. i try not to "perceive" and "illustrate", except when i am part of what goes in or have been part in (in some past posts) .. but i guess i know what u mean.. finally, since i deem my writing adequate, i see little reason in me ruining something which couldve been wonderful by literating it in undermined language :)

    mcarabian heh u too?
    oh no she wasnt spoken for.. i believe the sentence talks abt her dress code? what i MEANT (and not sure if that is the way i should have phrased it) is that preserved, in the sense ena "setir", yet is also unique .. or something like that.. "preserved, yet present" u know? yes? no? maybe? whatever? hehe

    MBH true, the smile in THAT particular context can only be interpretted as inviting .. sh maalah teweze3 ebtesamaat? i was smiling at her "type", not 'her'

    and there was absolutely no reason to talk to her anyway .. sh maalah el telezig?

    and THANK YOU!! madri mn wain yaboli love/lust!! 3agedooni wana okhok (eeh eeh im talking to u charisma n misscosmo)

    and whether or not "te6eer", gisma o niseeb.. o allah yarzegna o iyaak wel (shebeeba over here) bel mara elsal7a .. MISHARI26 MAMNO3 MARRA THANYA lol

    the comparrison to gold was in the sense that u dig for it, tet3ab 3ala mat7asla ;)

    and finally, i knew everything i wanted to know before i saw her, i just wanted to see her to know what she looks like, not that it really mattered - which is why i was taken aback by the comments abt love and lust elsara7a i didnt see that coming!

    chairz everyone

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY EYAAAAAAAAAAAAANIIIIIIIIIIIN EL POSSSSSST . . teslam eydik o yeslam mo5ik o kil your brain cells . . I visualised everything from the class door to the floor . . the plane seats kil shay .. I had a shiver run thru my spine . . I basically envied the girl LOL

    I loved reading it :X aby ba3ad 2 read puweez

    By Blogger PINKJAWBREAKER, at 19.12.05  

  • dalalism allah ysalmech .. not sure if theres anything more to say thu

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • Pure, simple, not to "pink," amazing!

    By Blogger f_, at 19.12.05  

  • Miss Cosmo & Charisma, y'all need to back off of my adopted bambino Temi. Here's the deal, if I see some guy helping his mom out or taking care of a baby or looking at the ground when he passes by a buncha gorgeous girls, my heart would kinda go out to him too It's not physical, it's the grace, sweetness and the "timini3" behaviour that makes the member of the opposite gender atractive. Willa shraykum?

    By Blogger ZinZinQ8, at 19.12.05  

  • to = too

    By Blogger f_, at 19.12.05  

  • fedo "not too pink", i like it !!

    zinzin fahmatni :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 19.12.05  

  • i am sorry to inform you this bss:
    walla kanat 3indy neyah to read your post bss once i saw how long it was nafsiyan ta3abt o ma gedart agraah :(

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 19.12.05  

  • Temy, Yeah! I've been keeping up with the reading. i'm sure you know how I'm doing a zillion things at a time. But thanks for always being my special blogger buddy!

    By Blogger samboose, at 19.12.05  

  • "Only thing was, she wasn't smiling. Shfeeha hathy? But he lost the attitude instantly, remembering what he was told. Come to think of it, he didn't expect her to smile"

    Kuwaiti guys deserve no smiles.

    By Blogger True Faith, at 19.12.05  

  • Dude, Immatwir, I love what you put up here! Keep updating regularly, you're my inspiration!

    By Blogger f_, at 19.12.05  

  • laialy walaw its not that important, at least now u know where u go to if u wanna waste time on nothing useful heh

    samboose i know that, allah y3eenich wewafgech enshaala :)
    still waiting on that i-heart-serious-samboose shirt thu hehe

    true faith ma 3alaich zod, i guess .. but in a way, i agree .. in others, i dont.. interesting

    fedo 7abeebi walla teslam.. i will inshala, 3isht :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 20.12.05  

  • zinzin...my heart goes out to a lot of people...don't mean I'm gonna marry them!! Ya3ni based on that split second OR what I heard about them...khalas...I marry them??!!!...gelna el bambino malich bass khalti..el man6ek ham la ninsah...wella eshrayech??

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 20.12.05  

  • misscosmo yes
    based on what u know abt them, u deem them potential candidates..
    ay man6eg et7achain 3ana? lazem athaye3 sena, sentain, thalath esneen atdala3 watmana3 wasawi ro7i fahem el denya o ma feha o agom at3arafli 3ala wa7da 3ashan yemken, aw yemken la ba3ad, atzawajha?

    laish, fathy wela fathy? w shal bent eli abeeha etha hathe sowalefha shegel 7ebni o yebli ward on the 14th 3ashan adri fek ma ra7 tensa our anniversary

    listen, 100 yrs before, none of u would have had this idea about love/relationship .. so that should tell u something

    finally, kel wa7ed ysawi eli yabeeh o akhratha kellen yeshof naatej eswaatah :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 20.12.05  

  • I am so impressed. You grasped my attention completely in the story. Excellent writing, man.

    Great job.

    By Blogger Hussa-G, at 20.12.05  

  • Miss Cosmo, ana ma3ach 100% bass uhwa ma gaal ba5ith-ha minee wil 6ereej uhwa sa2il 3anha.

    Bass ham, beni o benich, ma7ib il garga il zayda wil 7ebni wa7ibik idea. It's especially bad for us girls because men find it so easy to take a woman for granted once she has lost her mystery so a7san shay iyoon beit lahal awal oo ham lamma iyoon lazim tmoogeen witimani3ain shwayya yaala y3arfoon shlon yqaymoonich.

    By Blogger ZinZinQ8, at 20.12.05  

  • ok...here's the deal...el wa7id ma yigool sana aw sentain...walla yegool shofa aw shoftain...a medium would suffice I would say...we ba3dain akoo banat...gedam el nass shay and bel 7'shayshee shay thanee...bass kaifkom...madam sa2al 3anha..we hatha yakfee..3ala golatkum...el zeman eybayen...we allah yewafig el jamee3..we2etha kan 3an ayam awal...be sara7a...ana yaditee tezawejat thalath marat...we kul ziman leh 7ikmitah! :)

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 20.12.05  

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    By Blogger Gigi, at 20.12.05  

  • That's it...

    Bat7ajjab! :|

    Gigi, jokingly...

    P.S. Charisma&Co. :
    Rejoice!!
    Temetwir has proven that sometimes, a guy CAN be staring at a girl and have pure thoughts in his mind ;)

    By Blogger Gigi, at 20.12.05  

  • As usual Temetwir you never stop to impress me with your great articles i find this one very touching and well written. Keep up the good work brotha=) *cheer*

    By Blogger Zeus, at 20.12.05  

  • Gigi, Oi! That's an insult to men...

    Human + Penis != Man.
    Human + Penis = Male.

    Distinction please ^_^

    * != means not equal; Just in case o_0;

    By Blogger MBH, at 20.12.05  

  • MBH:

    Whaaa....??? o_0

    Gigi, discombobulatedly

    By Blogger Gigi, at 20.12.05  

  • Gigi,
    "Temetwir has proven that sometimes, a guy CAN be staring at a girl and have pure thoughts in his mind ;)"

    I've mistaken guy with man, my apologies.
    But still, not all guys stare for lust, no? Of course, that depends on where you find these guys in the first place!

    By Blogger MBH, at 20.12.05  

  • hussa thank u, i appreciate it ma3alaich zoud

    zinzin and misscosmo gaseb betzawjoni sa7.. anyway:
    misscosmo sheno y3ni a medium will suffice? what defines a medium? is it time, is it intimacy, is it clicking .. o 3ala salfat ur grandmom i dont get the relevance .. ma7ad gal ena shay mathmoon

    elsalfa ena shely astar o asna3 lel bent wel esbay

    finally, lets stop talking abt marriage as if its all romance and as if it is what defines marriage.. sure its about that TOO, but there are loads of other priorities, but then again i think u know that already

    Gigi inshala et7ajebain, laish laa fa latgoleen jokingly .. and i concur on the 2nd part

    Zeus hala wala, teslam .. chairz :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 20.12.05  

  • Gigi:

    il7jab kefwech, wenti kufu il7jab afa 3alaich :)

    As for staring, regardless of thoughts being pure or impure, is not polite in the 1st place. If the guy has marriage on his mind then (I think) 3alaih bel3afia stare as much as you like. Moreover go up to her and ask her what's her name, number and address, and when he can come over to sit and drink tea while she takes OFF her 7jab ba3ad. THAT's called '7e6ba. NOT the current custom of bringing the whole tribe from both sides as if its the world cup. Fareeqna akthar min fareeqkom. Its like an excercise in intimidation. Haa?? feek '7air gol mabe wella hawwen. nsheggek shag.

    Walla ya jema3a the more we veer away from what our Islam told us the more we get in trouble. '7e6ba should be just that, '7e6ba, o mafeha shai ilbent talbes o ttesanna3 o teksha'7 ba3ad. The current '7e6ba is like a declaration of marriage!! which it SHOULDn't be. Parents be brave, when a guy comes to see your daughter and it doesn't work out after a month or so, why are we so insecure to cover it up? laish ilfashla? msaween shai ghala6 ohom?? differences in personality, whatever, better now than later I say.

    I personally was nagging my sister to not only take off her 7jab when her hubby came to see her, but also to wear a fancy dress that she wouldn't go out in. for esteqbalaat 7areem ya3ne. This is how it is in isenna. and I think it makes perfect sense.

    Also, when a guy stares at a girl, most likely he'll lust for her. lets not have any wishy washy misgivings about that. I myself am like that. Ok? so I do my best not to stare or even look. successful? sure hope so :P now, I did say before that I kinda feel ashamed that we men are like that. But lets get something straight, atleast for me, when and if I catch myself staring, I'm NOT thinking "ooo would be nice for a one night stand *drool*"! that kind of idea is even a downer for me. completely unattractive thought! totally NOT "aaa that would be nice" noooo to me thats sooo NOT sexy at all. Its more of a "complete package" if you get my meaning. Its more like "wow.. how well would things work out with her." do you see the difference? I think most guys use the latter stare rather than the former.

    By Blogger mishari26, at 21.12.05  

  • Thank you for your full answer, Temetwir. I understood you.

    And about TNC... of course ok :)

    By Blogger Sever, at 21.12.05  

  • i didnt think guys could have so much patience

    By Blogger Extinct Dodo, at 21.12.05  

  • MBH:
    Aha hehe now I get it. Anyway my whole comment to Charisma was based on some posts I would read on her blog sometimes that fantasize about "what could have been" based on a look that was shared between two complete strangers vs. some posts of Temetwir like the one with 3laiwi talking to his friends in that restaurant about what's supposedly really going on in the mind's of guys when they're checkin' girls out.

    So anyway, yeah.

    Temetwir:
    I think about li7jaab a lot. The reason I said "jokingly" was because if/when I do decide to take that step it won't be because of reading a post like this (even though it was awesome), because when/if I do it won't be to get guys' admiration (which is one of the awesome points in this post; that there are guys who can really admire and appreciate chastity and respectability that enthusiastically). And my first comment could be construed as me deciding to at7ajjab for that reason alone, and that is what I was joking about, because of course my reasons would be way more deeper than that.

    Mishari:
    Thanks :) Now that's a true compliment. Inshalla allah yahdeeni waseer gad li7jaab. Ed3ooli :)

    About the whole engagement thing. I hear ya, mishmish! I mean, our engagements shouldn't be confused with Western engagements! In the West they only get engaged after having gone out and known other so yeah for them an engagement is an announcement of a commitment.

    In our case an engagement is nothing more (or shouldn't be more) than a discreet declaration of intention to get to know a little bit about the other with the aim of marriage in mind. So you're right there's definitely too much pressure involved in the way engagements are handled and discussed (should the engagement be called off) these days.

    Oh and I think you should stop thinking so negatively about your gender :) Men rock!!!!

    And women can be just as guilty of checking men out and wondering how things would work out with certain strangers. It's a normal human condition that is always curious about something "new", even if it isn't necessarily better than what they already have.

    Gigi, fairly

    By Blogger Gigi, at 21.12.05  

  • 7jab or no 7jab, no difference. I used to care when I was younger (highschool), now I don't; Simply because today, 7jab is part of fashion and/or is forced upon a girl.
    Add to that, most girls wearing 7jab act the total opposite of what the 7jab addresses them to :: tight clothes, gethla, clown-ish make up, ...etc.

    Girls + 7jab is a very tricky issue... approach with caution.

    By Blogger MBH, at 21.12.05  

  • mishari26
    - ur right staring is impolite

    - what u say about ena el bent tefsakh il e7jaab (and this is 3endena elshee3a) its the same, the grl can but she doesnt HAVE to (shay chethy) .. plus, u know how hair can make or break a woman (yeah, im such a dick) ely fahamta ena el esbay should look and see if he likes it overall .. im NOT too sure if he can sit with her all the while talking without her e7jaab, i would guess that that is not permitted 3end el kel .. i could be wrong, but very interesting i think this is worth asking about

    - the thing with the khe6ba, i agree (wely a3arfa) ena takheth ma3aak cham wa7ed mn ahalek ely hom 3ezwetik, mo kel man habb o dabb heheh .. bas 6ab3an hatha kela bel khe6ba "el rasmeya" 3ogb 7achi il 7areem y3ni .. el melcha shay thany.. so ur right sheghel the whole tribe mosaakha

    - and i agree, the grl should do her best to look good lena hathy ayamha y3ni ma feeha shay .. bedal la banat el deera yeg3edon yejabloon 4 sa3at 7ag eldawam mekyaj, khal yekheshoonha 7ag el khe6ba wela shay mo7taram bas .. nas betkhaaf mabtekhtesheesh (shako enzain heh)

    TNC sure thing :)

    extinct-dodo u dont understand what some guys are all about then :)

    Gigi akeeed mo 3ashan post like this or some guy's admiration tet7ajebain .. o 3ala fekra, el esbay ma yen3ejib bel 7ejaab lena shakla 7elo (as i think) or shay thany ..
    u said it urself, the admiration is for the respectability it forces

    but then again, that is not to say ena ay wa7da tet7ajab khalas.. yaa ma o yaa ma banat mo kafo ta7ajebaw aww enfarath 3alaihom el 7ejaab .. which is kinda ironic becoz:

    - hal 7ejaab nafsah yegdar YAFRETH e7teraam, o ana at7ada nafsi, o ay wa7ed 7ata ena ye7e6 3aina b 3ain wa7da mn hal banat .. 7alaft ma7ad yegdar

    OR

    - hal e7jab nafsah, etha "bas shakel" (o kelllllesh malah da3i i expand on what i mean here lena kelman faahemni) yegdar yekhali el esbay yestahze' bel bent o yesteheen b gadderha

    i respect what u say ena u consider el e7jab for deeper reasons .. bas en radat lel sij, i think its such a shame that some grls just rnt met7ajbaat .. im talking abt rfeejaat khawati ely a3arf cham wa7da menhom, kela agol 7ag ekhti sej sej 7aram eflana mo met7ajba .. sometimes tegoli embala ta7ajebat lena tezawejat ..

    hmm, worth a post? :p

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 21.12.05  


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