Manhood

if ur hoping for a discussion about size, go fuck urself.. and if ur hoping for pics of some hot guys.. i dunno, call the guy who was looking forward to a size-related post and fuck him (?)

^ I'm not rude, I was trying to make a point. Read on, ishda3wa za3altaw.

The opening sentence above is what you would expect from a victim of a misleaded realizition of manhood. Bad words, silly remarks, aggresive attitude, agdar-ayeek-wanaam-feek dialogue.
Sad truth is, that is how many guys understand what being a man is all about: fighting, always having the last word, regarded as an upNcoming Rambo.

Chill, cursing is found on the basis to be used. So go ahead, add some flavor to what you have to say. Just know when, where, and in the company of whom.

I know guys who would tell me about something that happened (to them or otherwise, that's not the point), and I sense the deliberate adding of 'bad words'. Why? I wonder. The story will be just as interesting if it were kept U-rated. And so, I am left to believe that employment of bad words is there just to underline their manhood in red ink.

How do I back that up to those unconvinced?
I say what makes a 12yr old smoke? It's the misconception that by smoking, you skip a few steps of the maturing-ladder. "Dad smokes, he's a man. I'm gonna smoke. Da fuck you lookin at faggot?". Nigga, please.

Other than bad words, let me mention attitude. Abi wa7ed feekom ma sarat feeh salfat "shfeek tekhiz?". Okay, so you all keep to yourself and I don't. But it happens, I know and now you know. Bearing in mind that the addressee has not committed a hostile act, the only explanation of the Shfeek Tekhiz syndrome is that by addressing a person, the speaker imposes his 'manhood' in the sense that you can only respond in the following ways:

a- Salamtek, ana asif.
b- Mo 3ajebny.

With that, the speaker would regard himself as the 'victor' if you respond by (a). And then it's the battle of the (er) same-sexes, if you respond with (b). Either case, the message has been sent across: he is the shit.

Often times, if you're unlucky, you might be in the exact same place and time where a young male is forcing himself on a girl. Forget the girl everybody, this is not about el imlaa7ag. If you are ever in such an unfortunate situation, and care to ask the following to the guy:

- sh lik feeha?
- ma yethaygek ena el kel 3araf enek eshlayti khafeef?
- sh sewat 3alaik es7abat 3alaik?
- whatever, i can list a ton

be very sure that the answer would essentially translate into "I'm a man. I don't care. I can live with that."

Moving on, we have the example of an actual interaction with he who happens to be a victim of the misconception. Ever been in a situation where you talk to a guy and it's like he gives you the shoulder? Again, this is assuming you actually have something worth saying to him. Yes? Meet ana-el-thigheel-ely-ma36y-wayh.
Just as most things in life, there are usually two extremes of everything. Il khiffa has been mentioned above. Enter: Il Thighil Il Zayif.
Some poor guys think that by acting all classy and looking-down on people, they're actually practicing their right to manhood. Most of the time, he probably doesn't know what to say back, so acting all not-interested is the relatively-macho thing to do. The really-macho thing being you involved in a fight, or being the lucky addressee of a flow of swearing.

Moreover, it is sometimes evident that some guys adopt opposition as a way to express their manhood. Example you can relate to without me telling a bed-time story of so and so: a number of blogs that come to mind. With opposition -backed up with nothing but the infamous 'hatha rayee'- some guys hope to stand out, reinforcing their manhood to some.

Lo ben7achi ma inkhaliss, there's the "number of girls i know" (and yes, by 'know' i mean slept with); there's the "fights i've been in"; there's the "the-time-i-made-fun-of-my-teacher/professor" and many, many others. I'm sure you guys have got the idea

Enzain, so what is manhood you ask ma daam wala shay bel denya 3ajbek?

It's simple, being a man is all about being yourself without the actual effort put in ever so forcefully so you prove otherwise. It is being true to yourself before trying to make a certain impression on others. It is to feel proud of who you are based on knowing that you have the decency to respect yourself before respecting others, espicially those who you disapprove of their actions.

Kent bagool shay thany bas nisait, so we'll leave it as that.