Temetwir

9.7.05

Manhood

if ur hoping for a discussion about size, go fuck urself.. and if ur hoping for pics of some hot guys.. i dunno, call the guy who was looking forward to a size-related post and fuck him (?)

^ I'm not rude, I was trying to make a point. Read on, ishda3wa za3altaw.

The opening sentence above is what you would expect from a victim of a misleaded realizition of manhood. Bad words, silly remarks, aggresive attitude, agdar-ayeek-wanaam-feek dialogue.
Sad truth is, that is how many guys understand what being a man is all about: fighting, always having the last word, regarded as an upNcoming Rambo.

Chill, cursing is found on the basis to be used. So go ahead, add some flavor to what you have to say. Just know when, where, and in the company of whom.

I know guys who would tell me about something that happened (to them or otherwise, that's not the point), and I sense the deliberate adding of 'bad words'. Why? I wonder. The story will be just as interesting if it were kept U-rated. And so, I am left to believe that employment of bad words is there just to underline their manhood in red ink.

How do I back that up to those unconvinced?
I say what makes a 12yr old smoke? It's the misconception that by smoking, you skip a few steps of the maturing-ladder. "Dad smokes, he's a man. I'm gonna smoke. Da fuck you lookin at faggot?". Nigga, please.

Other than bad words, let me mention attitude. Abi wa7ed feekom ma sarat feeh salfat "shfeek tekhiz?". Okay, so you all keep to yourself and I don't. But it happens, I know and now you know. Bearing in mind that the addressee has not committed a hostile act, the only explanation of the Shfeek Tekhiz syndrome is that by addressing a person, the speaker imposes his 'manhood' in the sense that you can only respond in the following ways:

a- Salamtek, ana asif.
b- Mo 3ajebny.

With that, the speaker would regard himself as the 'victor' if you respond by (a). And then it's the battle of the (er) same-sexes, if you respond with (b). Either case, the message has been sent across: he is the shit.

Often times, if you're unlucky, you might be in the exact same place and time where a young male is forcing himself on a girl. Forget the girl everybody, this is not about el imlaa7ag. If you are ever in such an unfortunate situation, and care to ask the following to the guy:

- sh lik feeha?
- ma yethaygek ena el kel 3araf enek eshlayti khafeef?
- sh sewat 3alaik es7abat 3alaik?
- whatever, i can list a ton

be very sure that the answer would essentially translate into "I'm a man. I don't care. I can live with that."

Moving on, we have the example of an actual interaction with he who happens to be a victim of the misconception. Ever been in a situation where you talk to a guy and it's like he gives you the shoulder? Again, this is assuming you actually have something worth saying to him. Yes? Meet ana-el-thigheel-ely-ma36y-wayh.
Just as most things in life, there are usually two extremes of everything. Il khiffa has been mentioned above. Enter: Il Thighil Il Zayif.
Some poor guys think that by acting all classy and looking-down on people, they're actually practicing their right to manhood. Most of the time, he probably doesn't know what to say back, so acting all not-interested is the relatively-macho thing to do. The really-macho thing being you involved in a fight, or being the lucky addressee of a flow of swearing.

Moreover, it is sometimes evident that some guys adopt opposition as a way to express their manhood. Example you can relate to without me telling a bed-time story of so and so: a number of blogs that come to mind. With opposition -backed up with nothing but the infamous 'hatha rayee'- some guys hope to stand out, reinforcing their manhood to some.

Lo ben7achi ma inkhaliss, there's the "number of girls i know" (and yes, by 'know' i mean slept with); there's the "fights i've been in"; there's the "the-time-i-made-fun-of-my-teacher/professor" and many, many others. I'm sure you guys have got the idea

Enzain, so what is manhood you ask ma daam wala shay bel denya 3ajbek?

It's simple, being a man is all about being yourself without the actual effort put in ever so forcefully so you prove otherwise. It is being true to yourself before trying to make a certain impression on others. It is to feel proud of who you are based on knowing that you have the decency to respect yourself before respecting others, espicially those who you disapprove of their actions.

Kent bagool shay thany bas nisait, so we'll leave it as that.

6 Comments:

  • "It's simple, being a man is all about being yourself without the actual effort put in ever so forcefully so you prove otherwise. It is being true to yourself before trying to make a certain impression on others. It is to feel proud of who you are based on knowing that you have the decency to respect yourself before respecting others, espicially those who you disapprove of their actions."


    <-- is this not just to be human? or are women supposed to feel different?

    nice post.

    By Anonymous iatra, at 11.7.05  

  • Pure gold, u are truely underrated btw .. its funny how people would rather read about usless posts like "RI7T IL JAM3A ILYOM OW KALAIT FOOL OW 6ALA3 IM7AZR EEEEWWW" Then posts like these .. it sickens me, this subject in particular bothers me so much .. that sometimes i really want to believe that we were decendent from apes (istaghfaralah)

    By Blogger Zorath 3000, at 11.7.05  

  • iatra
    valid observation.. i think ur right,with slight changes here and there it would be true to women also

    doesnt change the fact that maturity is the key to differentiate

    zorath
    appreciate it :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 11.7.05  

  • I agree bes I think being a man is being strong, gool o fi3il, always suppourting his girl o being really nice

    By Blogger PeTiTa, at 22.7.05  

  • u do strike when u say gol o fe3il, the percentage of ebyaa3at el 7achi bel deera is pretty amazing

    being really nice mo gaasir 3ala "his girl" .. farg bain el sana3 o being whipped heh >:)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 30.7.05  

  • Well said, I like this post as well. This post actually inspired my latest post about masculinity.

    I do have, however, an answer or information regarding the male body and brains and what pushes them to be all "Shfeek Tkhiz".

    It's scientifically proven that males have testosterone that makes them uncontrolably behave in a violent manner sometimes. This testosterone is also responsible for many 13 and 14 year olds to be unresponsive sometimes, Ya3ni Ykhali il shabab Dithwiyeen.

    In a study where they put girls and boys of about 6 years old together at a party, an hour after the party got going, all the girls were found socializing and playing tea party, while the boys had already formed gangs and fought like x-men.

    This does not say that boys are therefore bad, but that their testosterone is responsible for their outbursts.

    Ya3ni il 7areem Lay Wa7da Mashya D3amat ithanya Tgoolaha 3ala 6ool sorry ikhti. Lo athnain Shabab, il Awal Bigool Shfeek Matshoof int? What i'm saying is that these examples are testosterone in action. Men can't often help it.

    Allah Y3eenkom.

    By Blogger Hazolat, at 13.8.06  

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