"Say it ain't so"

-Dedicated to a specific someone:

The world would be a much simpler place if there was a differentiation between love in movies, poetry, and novels, as opposed to what love really is.

Love is a blend of a number of things, including and not limited to respect, loyalty and appreciation. Anything crossing these lines, and you are merely dreaming. Granted, it is quite some dream.

That is all you needed to read. Continue at your own will.

In movies, poetry, novels, the matter dealt with is not love. It is lust. Not sex. Not love. Lust.
Mara thanya 3ashan abary il thema: what is presented in movies, novels, and poetry is not love, it is lust. And no, lust is not a synonym of sex.

Lust is craving, wanting, longing for something. Ya3ni il zebda, most people would also have a "lust for love". Mind you, love as is presented in movies/novels/poetry.

"Yarait wa7ed/wa7da y/tegoli chethy" : after reading or listening to a poem.
"Yarait wa7ed/wa7da y/t7ebni chethy": after watching a movie.
"Akh lo wa7ed/wa7da y/t7ebni chethy": after finishing a romantic novel.

"Oh but who said we want the kind of love in movies/poetry/novels? We are not shallow, we know that there is a difference." You do? Where did you get that concept of love from? To be loved forever and ever, no matter what?

Love exists, sure it does. Love makes living a lot more easier, sure it does. Love is a blessing, sure it is. But this is the kind of love defined above. Not what you would like to believe love really is as you see it presented. No? Suit yourself.

Movies are an illusion.
Novels are fiction.
Poetry is exaggerated.

No wonder people are fucked up when it comes to love. They are looking for an exaggerated fictitious illusion.


  • I like your point of view.

    Lust is something that comes with being human, but love is something we learn in the journey of life.

    It sickens me when I see those kids in malls flirting and exchanging #s, saying "I love you", to each and every girl they meet, and vice-versa. It comes out so easily, yet without taste.

    If your question is: then how do we know how it tastes? the answer is: Have you tried to love God? or your Prophet (assuming you're not athiest)?
    Oh sure, say I'm religious, but I'm not. I'm showing you the true love. You won't know how it feels, until you truly love.

    * Thanks Temetwir, your post has moved me and I'm gonna write about my experience with what I believe is true love. (no not the religious one).

    By Blogger MBH, at 22.8.05  

  • I can't agree more. The sort of love we aspire to have, the love we wait for is mostly an adaptation of what we see, not of what we experience. The display of love in media is mainly lust.
    I dont remember witnessing any sort of "love" in real life.. It is mostly a show-off.
    Love is when your partner has a habit of farting after having a gasy meal at night, and you admire the melodious sound of his/her farts.. Now, THAT'S love:)
    I love your blog.

    By Anonymous The specific someone, at 22.8.05  

  • it's too general, but I like the realistic part of it.

    By Blogger Spontaneousnessity, at 22.8.05  

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    By Blogger Papillona ®, at 22.8.05  

  • LOVE is the reason we live.. How can one possibly live without loving and being loved and I'm not talking romance. Love is a wonderful thing, it isn't pain, it isn't lust. If one loves you so much they would do anything not to see you being hurt. yes it is all about respect loyalty and appreciation I totally agree with that.

    Some people love being tortured by people they "think they love". While personally I don't call that "Love" all those experiences full of pain and toture are nothing but sickness and people should realize the difference.

    Movies, Novels and Poetry can present LOVE and can present LUST and many other things.. so it isn't right to generalize it.

    I don't think you got my point 'cause what you have posted has nothing to do with the point we have discussed, well, THAT if it was dedicated to me ;)

    By Blogger Papillona ®, at 22.8.05  

  • mbh,
    looking fwd to your post

    specific someone,
    ur sick lol, u couldve said "love comes with il 3ishra" .. an adaptation, couldnt have said it better

    general in essence, specific in nature.. sleep on it

    not to sound rude, but no it isnt dedicated to u and right, it has nothing to do with what we discussed on ur space .. it never crossed my mind actually ..
    " The specific someone said..." <-- here, isnt it obvious?

    nonetheless, ur first paragraph is a nice way to rephrase what i intended .. cheers

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 22.8.05  

  • I like this post. It's nice to take a reality pill once in a while. The media is just so powerful! Is there a part 2? I'd love to read more about the nonillusioned, nonfiction, nonexaggerated love.

    By Blogger Salted-Caramel, at 22.8.05  

  • So true,,,
    Love even increases with time love is love there doesnt have to be lust or any kind of craving.
    LOve is something so deeply peentrated in a persons soul that one can not help but feel .
    ( yummah galabtu shi3ir LOOOL)
    Neways Thanks for the cold splash of water on the face I'm a romance movie addict and lets not talk about the novels OH THE NOVELS ,, Good Lord I love them!! "being a 19 year old feamle I think i'm allowed to indulge in them wouldn't u say?

    By Blogger Noor, at 22.8.05  

  • Noor, novels are great to 'escape' from reality once in a while, but it's important to keep in mind that you're still in reality. Many women become obsessed with such novels and they alter their standards accordingly, thinking they deserve someone with novel-standards!!! Just a little warning so you don't drown along the way ;)

    By Blogger MBH, at 22.8.05  

  • WOW!!! I'm taken by surprise that I'm kinda stumped for word....that doesn't happen to me often.

    Mbh interesting point.

    Well I think it's good for someone to have goals and dreams just like the movies. I mean we're going through reality all the time isn't somewhat healthy to have a little fantasy in your head?? Makes your daily life a little more exciting....

    By Blogger samboose, at 22.8.05  

  • ah, good :)

    By Blogger Papillona ®, at 22.8.05  

  • maybe to the specific someone cause to the rest am sure it was pretty general

    By Blogger Spontaneousnessity, at 23.8.05  

  • temetwir..just when I thought that subject wouldn't interest you..wa faj'a'....tananna...well..well..you made valid points...and you're right...but don't worry..the most romantic ones are deep down the most realistic...that's why they live in la la land in the first place...they just couldn't stand reality..:)

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 23.8.05  

  • My latest post (The Love Bug) proves what Temetwir is discussing, hopefully.

    I hope someone benefits from it.

    By Blogger MBH, at 23.8.05  

  • caramel,
    to show the differences between the 2 gasdich? makes sense, am not sure im the right person to do this though.. neshoof inshala khair

    u r entitled to indulge, everybody is .. the catch being to KNOW that it is all a fantasy .. i mean who would write a 900 page novel on something real? :P mbh said it BEST

    so true, having surreal goals and strive to achieve them makes life all that more exciting .. but not when it comes to hoping or wishing for a 'love' like in the novels .. success, for example, is

    i dont agree, but i do respect ur POV

    how so? what do u mean by "that subject wouldnt interest u" ? :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 23.8.05  

  • temetwir..dunno...thought I had you figured out differently..you know...more into the money business rathern than the love business..:)

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 23.8.05  

  • well said

    off topic:
    temetwir why didnt u mention anything about urself in ur profile ? r u male or female :P lol

    By Blogger Brava Valentia, at 23.8.05  

  • misscosmo
    ic, but if u had me figured as one egocentric proud shallow mafakah .. ur not far off ;)

    mother courage
    wala itze3leen, male.. ask away :)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 23.8.05  

  • Well I think you shouldn't under-estimate the power of the mind. Maybe if you believe in it enough it'll happen.

    By Blogger samboose, at 23.8.05  

  • samboose
    ages 3ala ro7y y3ni till i believe? sure, that sounds possible ;)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 24.8.05  

  • I never heard it said better ;) I totally, whole heartedly, Agree.

    By Blogger Peach, at 24.8.05  

  • peacha
    glad u do

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 25.8.05  

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