Temetwir

5.10.05

Differentiation

From my own humble observation of people's actions and behaviour, in addition to their claims and sayings; I have found many, if not most, to be lost. Not lost in the sense that I would love to see many, and this time not most, on the path of redemption. Rather, lost in the sense that they seem to lack the ability of correctly identifying that which they want to discuss.

We, the population of the Gulf, would like to believe that we are people of tradition. We, again, like to believe that this tradition is derived, if not directly connected, to our religious beliefs. Since we enjoy believing in certain things so much, we therefore have come up with the concept of Il 3aadat Wil Taghaleed.

This, in my humble opinion, is something we should be proud of. However, this is where it can prove to be a little bit too tricky for some. You see, I believe that there is a misconception of "Il 3adaat Wil Taghaleed". I believe that, unfortunately, this phrase has grown for some to become a synonym of "the right thing".

The problem in this case is not in that these certain people (x) regard it as "the right thing", quite ironically in this case, it is that some others (z) would actually believe it is "the right thing". Hence, (z) projects the misbelief of (x) to be true. When, ofcourse, it isn't.

As a result, we have individuals who would challenge the 3adaat Wil Taghaleed, under the false belief that these traditions are the ultimate truth. In other words, they are wasting their times.

Take anything from these traditions, and say you do not agree with. Nobody will give a fuck. The catch being, unless this tradition is directly linked to religion. For instance, and this is coming from my limited understanding, the tradition of asking for the hand of a young lady is to let the mothers do the talking first. This never hurt anybody, and it never will. However, from religion, what I seem to understand is that the man would speak directly to the young lady's father (or waly ilamr). Since there is nothing wrong with the tradition, espicially when it is known that after the women talk, both men would meet.
The point is, traditions are just the way things work in a given society. This happens to be an example which does not affect religion, so no worries there.

Moving on to my main point, consider drinking alcohol. Here, what I am trying to say becomes clear. Drinking alcohol is not "wrong" because traditionally it is forbidden. Sure, it may be forbidden in a given soceity. But that does not mean that that is the reason why it is "wrong".
If that were the case, then when someone is outside the geographical parameters of that society, that certain aspect loses its value.

To show what I mean by a tradition losing its value if outside the geographical parameter, here is an example. In Kuwait (presumably the Gulf), upon a man meeting another man, if the physical distance between them is not that great, a shake of the hands is due. Not shaking hands, would send the implication that there seems to be lack of respect for whatever reason. This falls when you are someplace like the UK. The none-shaking-hands does not mean lack of respect. Rather, the refusal to shake a hand which has already been extended is.

Projecting this back to drinking alcohol, it would still be "wrong" for you to drink even if you were in the UK. And ofcourse, any other similar example you can come up with.

In addition, you can apply this also to the parameters of time.

Here, we reach the introduction of religion, the actual fixed "right thing".

11 Comments:

  • good to see your on your feet again writting :) .. good stuff bro

    By Blogger Zorath 3000, at 5.10.05  

  • How exciting! Totally appreciated your post...definately nice to see you having such thought provoking things...mashallah 3alaik...well put..

    By Blogger MissCosmoKuwait, at 5.10.05  

  • zorath hala wala, appreciate it.. sallem 3al 1st Lt. for me baarekla belshahar neyaabatan

    misscosmo again, appreciate it .. am glad it clicked..

    feels good to see both of u back here

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 6.10.05  

  • Well for me I've created my own set of traditions to tell you the truth...Kaifi...he he he!!!

    But I totaly see where you're coming from!!

    By Blogger samboose, at 6.10.05  

  • Nice, and yet so true : ) liq8iyen thay3en mo 3arfen shisawon and the main reason about most of what we do is to impress other people.. "ishbigolon inas 3ana"

    By Blogger PeTiTa, at 6.10.05  

  • samboose thats what im trying to say, traditions r social measures - those which r not in direct relation to religion can be defied, but ofcourse maintaining respect to the context .. so u have a set of "traditions" on ur own is ur "right" .. ur 'right' is no longer in activation when/if u defy any religious belief

    petita this isnt only 3an elq8iyeen, but the whole gulf (if not most of the arab world) becoz am sure theyre relatively "conservative" in the sense that they cherish tradition

    the whole "all q8is want to do is impress" is something i strongly resent and believe to be a false statement, and will talk abt in the future en allah a7yaana

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 6.10.05  

  • awal shay .. mbarak 3alek el shahar .. o thani shay .. Dude! I have no idea what u said lol but if I got the jist right I think I do agree with you ;)

    By Blogger Peach, at 6.10.05  

  • And then there are those who instantly and reflexively regard anyone holding on to certain traditions as backwards and ignorant.. As people "mit7ajreen" or, worse: "Part of the Herd" (The use of
    this phrase is a major peeve of mine!).
    Such people are the kind who value change and westernization(which of course can be positive in many cases) but the problem is that they seem to value change just for the sake of change in the name of progress.. without first evaluating whether there may indeed be some value and benefit to certain traditions.

    Anyway I agree with you that people are free to debate the worthiness of certain traditions, yet not mess with religion.. But then again don't you find that those who are most opposed to traditions are usually the same people who place no value on religious principles as well..?

    Gigi, musingly

    P.S. Can't tell you how much your views on certain things and 6areeqat 6ar7ik appeal to me :D Keep it up!

    By Blogger Gigi, at 6.10.05  

  • peach 3alaina o 3alaich .. ur not the only one out there who says its badly written heh

    gigi true, and yes i do agree that most ppl who have no regard to traditions are mostly the same ones who disregard religion - which is my main point, they mix these up thinking one is the other - and thanks for the compliment appreciated

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 7.10.05  

  • Temetwir - I like your critique about people who conflate religion with tradition. I'm curious as how you'd define 'religion' though - some people (yes, Kuwaities) are fairly religious without believing the dogma (ie, they don't go by the Islamic paths that come from the popular tafaseer). Do those fall under your label?

    By Blogger McArabian, at 7.10.05  

  • mcarabian
    thats the thing, religion isnt relative.. u dont take what u want (what makes life easier) and disregard the rest (becoz it makes life harder) <- this is in relation to what u have said about someone being "religious"

    being religious isnt to say "7aram" or "7alaal" .. its a whole way of life, ma wedy agol a philosophy 3ashan la7ad yefham qala6 .. el7adeeth says it all:
    'ma bo3ethto ila le otamema makaarem el akhlaag'

    am not sure its "my label" either, im in no position to judge .. its just the way it is (sure, according to my understanding)

    By Blogger Temetwir, at 7.10.05  

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